The Seven Basic Needs
The needs are listed on how quickly you would die without them.
1 - Air
2 - Water
3 - Sleep
4 - Food
5 - Shelter
6 - Connection
7 - Creative Expression
I’m talking about the 6th, - connection. Connection is another way of “relationship”.
A relationship with an animal, the forest or simply with the cosmos can suffice if the connection is emotionally and spiritually rewarding.
Without some form of connection, physical death may not me immanent, but feelings of disconnection can lead to loneliness that may even lead to suicide.
At the very least, it may make a person feel that they are not truly alive and create a state of apathy that can make a person wither away and become susceptible to disease, thus shortening what could have been a much longer and healthier lifespan.
(c) Anka, Darryl 👽
The story about social programming and need balance
🌾 Once upon a time, in the galaxy far far away, I cured social programming for “getting married and have a child” on a therapy session.
Afterwards I used to have light relationships without obligations 👫 I liked how many different persons there are around me, and I was amazed with what is outside of the shell 🐚
But my emotions eventually showed me that’s something wrong with that position to have that kind of easy relationship.
I went to therapy, again. That was recent days 👨🏼⚕️
The outcome:
That was fear to be in a position from where you cannot run easily 👟
(it’s healed)
😐 Pattern influence
▶️ That’s because - I didn’t build any serious relationship last 6 years.
▶️ That’s because - I had an internal refuse to get a more reliable and responsible position in the companies I worked.
▶️ And that’s one of the because-s why I didn’t created a project: the project isn’t something that you can easily quit.
⚡️ My insight
So answering my question now,
what I felt wrong is that:
- there is a need to have a connection, this need has every human
- I didn’t recognize that I also had this need
- and therefore neglected it for a long period of a time
- so I was almost dying from loneliness. Loneliness in the crowd.
I realized that for most of man I’m not important, no deep connection was established.